Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for several years. At his urging, our relationship became physically intimate. I regret compromising my beliefs, but I love him and don’t want to hurt or lose him by rejecting his advances. I know in my heart that he’s “the one,” so am I really doing anything wrong?

A. Begin by reading the answer to question #1.

Reconsider, not your relationship to the person you’re dating, but your relationship to God.  Clearly, the idea of “hurting or losing” a relationship with your boyfriend is superseded by the idea of losing fellowship with Christ.  Granted, someone “with skin on” is often more appealing than a God one has to work to know better.  But, that “skin” will not love you and care for you when all other physical circumstances have worn out.

I think perhaps you have answered your own question.  Physical intimacy is designed to be “jumped into” whole-heartedly with lovers who have already made complete commitments.  If you were pressured into more intimacy than you felt was godly or noble, then your partner doesn’t love you.  He loves himself more.  Re-think spending your whole life with someone who has little or no respect for your TRUE feelings and/or beliefs.  Think more about spending your life for God, who already has made a life commitment to you, through Christ.